If your terminally ill husband or wife has a family, you can never be as good a caregiver as they could. They may not have seen the dying family member in ten years and don't do more than send a Christmas email newsletter, but hey...blood is thicker than water, and how can an outsider do a better job than family?
Granted, this doesn't always happen; many families are tremendously supportive, and can offer the primary caregiver much-needed respite with a cheerful and uncritical heart...and they'll even clean the bathroom. Such folk deserve a seat at God's right hand...no, not just a seat...a top-of-the-line La-Z-Boy.
But when the criticism does roll in, it's tough. You don't have the energy to respond, and without giving them a full briefing and 'guided tour', you have no chance of convincing them anyway. The dice are loaded; you lose.
So you've got to grow a thick skin. Not armour, that deflects the hurt back onto he or she who sent it. They do mean well, you see; someone they love is dying, and they are hurting, too.
The skin you develop has to be like that of Jesus, to take in the hurt, absorb it as compassion, and give it up to the Lord.
Your thick skin, however hard it becomes to bear, becomes the seamless garment you wear in imitation of Christ.
Wear it well, wear it with love, and wear it in the knowledge that it was God who thus dressed you.
Our musical theme is from Clemency, with My Heart Is The Eastern Horizon.
My #write31days posts so far are:
October 1 - Worship For Caregivers
October 2 - Talk To A Caregiver
October 3 - Create A Caregiver Haven
October 4 - A Caregiver's Raw Hope
October 5 - A Caregiver's Trust
October 6 - Caregiving For Our Country
October 7 - Caregiver, Don't Hold Too Tight
October 8 - Caregiver, You Will Find Freedom In Truth
October 9 - A Caregiving Plan?
I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.
Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).
I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.
Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.
Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.