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Thursday, October 26, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 394 - Caregiver, Let Change Come {#write31days}

Yesterday your life was normal. There were aches and pain,s and suspicious symptoms.

"It's probably nothing. Still, better get it checked, no?"

And then came the diagnosis, and your world imploded. Your spouse has an illness that's likely terminal, and you're launched down that caregiving road from which you can never retrace your steps.

It feels like you can reach back and touch yesterday...the hopes and dreams of growing into maturity together, of growing old togther, of experiencing the best that life has to offer...together.

And now this.

You want to turn back the clock...somehow.

Don't try.

Let the changes come.

If you accept what each new day brings, however awful it may seem, you're going to learn things...good things...about yourself and your mate that you never knew existed.

The changes will make your life narrower, but if you let them, you will find an increased depth in fortitude and courage and vulnerability and humour and the tears that come in the night, when the ark things gather 'round.

You will hold your husband or wife as you have never held that parson before...and the same will be returned to you.

If you don't spurn the changes, yes, you will lose the life you planned to share.

And you will rediscover the love.

I think we'll turn to the Fab Four, with Here, There and Everywhere. What do you think?

My #write31days posts so far are:

October 2 - Talk To A Caregiver
October 3 -  Create A Caregiver Haven
October 5 - A Caregiver's Trust
October 9 - A Caregiving Plan?

Write 31 Days prompts - 2017

I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.

Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.


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  1. No regrets. Look ahead. I struggled with this when my illness wasn't terminal. So many memories lost, so many things I missed. But learning to look at the now was what helped me. I'm loving your posts this month!

    1. Christy, thank you so much! And you are right...no regrets. Look ahead!