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Sunday, October 29, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 397 - Caregiver, Follow A Routine {#write31days}

I'm writing this a few hours after a very bad fall, and I am on concussion protocol. Again.

Good thing, in a way, because it emphasizes the need to follow a routine; I can get through my duties this evening only because I do things the same way each day. The dogs, for instance, are let out in a certain order, and fed in a certain order.

I don't have to think about it, which is important when, concussed, I can't.

The same goes for caregiving. Not that you'll be suffering from head trauma (I hope!), but things can turn into an exhausting kaleidoscope whirl that can make it all to easy to forget things that are really vital...like medication schedules.

Sure, routine can also be boring at length, but you can find ways to liven it up, sometimes by just intentionally noticing what you're experiencing. When I take out the dogs who have to walk on leash (like the Ridgeback twins, Josie and Reebok, aka "THEM!") I take them to the same part of the yard each time, but do try to pay attention to the gravel driveway beneath my feet. I've fund some lovely rocks that I will one day make into a heart-shaped mosaic for Barbara.

And in the different light each day, the quartz in the gravel shines in a unique way. I've seen so much beauty, on the same well-trodden path.

Follow a routine, and muscle memory will help you remember what to do. Routine is not a 'crutch'; it's a pair of shoes worn on a rocky road.

Here's the great English hymn Jerusalem, performed by the male quartet Blake.

My #write31days posts so far are:

October 2 - Talk To A Caregiver
October 3 -  Create A Caregiver Haven
October 5 - A Caregiver's Trust
October 9 - A Caregiving Plan?

Write 31 Days prompts - 2017

I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.

Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.


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  1. Replies
    1. Tara, it sure is...and for me it's vital. I don't have the energy left to be creative.

  2. Ouch - sorry about the concussion. Routine is a great help when we can't think straight, due to tiredness or illness or whatever. Elisabeth Elliot used to quote an old poem called "Do the next thing."

    1. Barbara, thank you so much...I'm actually pretty used to head injuries. I used to play rugby.

      Love the quote courtesy Elisabeth Eliot...just doing the next thing, that'll get you there.

      Thank you so much for being here.