Ask Barb. She knows.
I hope you can believe that there's Someone there with you though. Someone mighty, who wa a caregiver Himself.
You see, He had to watch His own Son suffer agonies.
And He couldn't lift a finger, because it would have negated His Purpose, and His Son's sacrifice...the sacrifice that bought you freedom from the fires of Hell. Only the pain, and death, could purchase that.
And he had to be a caregiver, standing on the sidelines. He had to watch.
He's walked this road for you. And while you may not be able to literally climb into His lap and get His reassurance, He has something that can help you.
I'm not going to suggest that you dive into something like the often-misapplied Jeremiah 29:11: "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
It was written for the people of Israel in their exile; and the only future you may see for your beloved wife or husband is more pain, and death. Some things don't end well; ask Jesus, on His way up the Via Dolorosa. (And yes, there is the promise of Heaven, but that sometimes doesn't cut it with the pain you're witnessing inow.)
Far better, I think, are the verses that show God's love for us, even in the midst of our pain. (The first two are referenced from here.)
"Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows." - Matthew 10:29-31
We have an intrinsic value; one far greater than that of a sparrow, but since He cares about the fallen sparrows...and they will fall - He cares about you, too.
"I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety." - Psalm 4:8
This acknowledges that we really don't control things, but if we believe in the Creator of the Universe, He does. And He cares.
And my personal favourite, John 11:35:
He wept for the sisters of lazarus, who believed that He had not arrived in time to save their brother. He wept for lazarus, who had to endure the crucible of pain that death brings. And He wept for a world that would ever be a slave to death, until after he would die, and come again in Glory.
How we feel matters. Our tears matter to God.
Appropriate music is, I think, the Beatles' Let It Be.
My #write31days posts so far are:
October 10 - A Caregiver's Listening Heart
October 11 - Caregiving Remembrances?
October 12 - Caregiver, Write It Down!
October 13 - Taking Care Of God
October 14 - Caregiver, Don't Try Too Hard
October 15 - The Caregiver Will Remain
October 16 - Readings For Caregivers
October 17 - Caregiver, Grow A Thick Skin
October 18 - Caregiver, Share Your Heart
October 19 - A Caregiver's Brave
October 20 - A Caregiver So Far From Home
October 21 - Caregiver, Give Hope
October 22 - Caregiver, Bring The Light
October 23 - Caregiver, Sometimes Nothing Works
October 24 - The Caregiver's Life, Revised
October 25 - Why, Caregiver? Just Because
I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.
Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).
Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.
Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.