That's a bit harsh, but it really applies to the good things that happen on the caregiving journey, the islands of shared love and laughter in a sea of pain.
When you're healthy, the good stuff is easy to remember.
When the person you love is dying, you have to be intentional.
You have to make an effort to document the good. So you can share it, yes, but also - and this is important - so that when the caregiving journey is over and you've set out on your new, lonely path, your heart will be supported and warmed by the good memories that you have chosen...and the choice you made not to let the bad overwhelm them.
So keep a journal. Write down the days that were good, and why they were good. Record jokes. Record loving, kind comment.
Record everything you can while you can, because that day will come when words and pictures are all you have left in this life.
Your memories, overwhelmed by work ending in grief, will betray you.
But the things you write down...they never will.
And here we have the Dixie Chicks, performing Long Time Gone.
My #write31days posts so far are:
October 1 - Worship For Caregivers
October 2 - Talk To A Caregiver
October 3 - Create A Caregiver Haven
October 4 - A Caregiver's Raw Hope
October 5 - A Caregiver's Trust
October 6 - Caregiving For Our Country
October 7 - Caregiver, Don't Hold Too Tight
October 8 - Caregiver, You Will Find Freedom In Truth
October 9 - A Caregiving Plan?
I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.
Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).
Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.
Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.