The "card" on the right has been making the rounds in Facebook, in one form or another. It's one of those sayings that looks very true from the outside, but when you read it carefully...it's hokey. And many variation feature a kitten.
Well, no, I'm not.
Hardship and pain are things that happen to everyone, and simply going through them doesn't confer wisdom, dignity, or magically improved personalities.
In 1990 Almost An Angel came out, starring Paul "Crocodile Dundee" Hogan. He played an apprentice angel who'd been sent to help a crippled young man.
In one scene, the boy says, angrily, "When people look at me all they see is a guy in a wheelchair."
To which Paul Hogan replies, "Nah...they see a jerk in a wheelchair."
The truth is that there is no particular virtue in deep, sorrowful secrets. The amount of tears you shed is no measure of your compassion, merely an indication of an emotional set-point.
And pain can harden hearts as easily as it can make them kind.
It's what you do, not what you experience, that makes the difference.