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Monday, December 25, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 435 - Caregiving's Light {#adventphoto2017}

In being the caregiver for God Incarnate, Mary carried the Light of the World in her arms.

And so do you, as you care for your dying husband or wife. You are caring for someone made in God's image, someone for whom He sent His son to die.

In all the mess, in all the querulousness, in all the fatigue and frustration...you're doing something holy.

You will get tired and impatient; you will sometimes ask why.

No matter. mary got impatient; Jesus asked Why, and that His cup pass Him by.

It doesn't matter all that much how you do it. It matters that you do it.

And with that, Advent for Careegivers comes to a close. I'm profoundly grateful for your taing the time to read this, and comment. I didn't thin.sometimes, that I'd make it through to the end.

Well,  din't.


Music from Kari Jobe, with We Are.

Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is light.

Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal
December 12 - A Table In The Presence
December 14 - Into The Mystery
December 16 - A Caregiver's Open Arms
December 19 - Caregiving's Release
December 21 - Caregiving's Gift
December 23 - A Caregiver's Wonderings

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I'm really not doing well at all.

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I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

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  1. Yep, you made it! Never any doubt in my mind that you'd succeed in blessing people all over the place, Andrew.

    Blessings to you and your sweet woman, especially this week. I'm guessing you'll be letting your pen rest a bit and re-focusing on your 4-footed pals.

    Best ...

    1. Linda, thank you so much! It was in doubt for awhile, but I'm glad I stayed with it.

      I'll be returning to the usual MWF schedule, yes...and the dogs have been really superb through Christmas.

      Love for everyone here!

  2. Andrew, it was a blessing reading your daily advent posts. Bless you for persevering through and offering contemplative, meaningingful thoughts.
    I think one of the hardest things about caregiving is the emotional toll it takes on the caregiver. It's almost like one is always grieving as loss continues to happen.
    But it is also about life. Facing each day with courage and grace, digging deep to make it through, and seeking God for divine comfort and enabling. Last night I had to ask him to put me on the bright side because I was weary and not very Christmasy, and there was still one more family event to go to. And you know what, he did! I felt renewed rather than depleted. I hope today brings you its own joy.
    Still praying.

  3. You have done a great job blogging through the Advent season! I have enjoyed reading here each day. Merry Christmas to you and Barbara!

  4. Glad you're still here, but I sure wish you'd be miraculously healed.