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Monday, October 29, 2018

Your Dying Spouse 534 - Beast Of Burden

One of the worst things about dying...apart from the fact that you're, y'know, dying...is that you become a burden on others.

It's worst, of course on Barbara. She can't do the things she would like to do, like travel, and has to do things she would prefer not to do...like remain still if I doze off while we're watching a DVD. Sleep comes hard, and she has to protect hat I can get.

There's more; if I do too much to try to be a help to her, I can wear myself out and cause pain spikes that put a huge demand on her, physically and mentally.

And if I do too little, I shift more work on to her shoulders.

Her shoulders are compromised, because she was in a car wreck several years ago.

So I'm still the upper-body muscle here. I have to keep it up, but if I work too hard at it, bingo, I'm screaming through the night with pain.

Too little, and I can't do the job.

So I'm a beast of burden, on a tightrope.

Falling sucks, for everyone.

The Beatles' When I'm 64 seems like an appropriate musical selection.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback soon.

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

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  1. I hadn't thought about that tightrope walk. That's hard. I can only speak from my experience, which is different from your experience, but I love my husband and there's no one else i'd rather serve. Maybe even though it's taxing, Barbara feels the same? I guess mostly what I want to convey is that even when things suck, there's no one i'd rather share sucky stuff with than my guy. (Pretty sure the words suck and sucky are technical terms.) :)

    1. Emily, I think you've got it exactly right; it is both taing, and a freely chosen duty.

      And yes, 'suck' and 'sucky' are indeed technically correct!

  2. (((((Andrew&Barbara)))))

    Annie in Texas (checking here daily)

    1. ((((((((((Annie!))))))))))

      Thank you so much for being here!

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    1. Emily, hugs back from all of us (especially Strawberry the Baby Bullmastiff, who gives AWESOME hugs).