If you're a caregiver, there is one thing you can do that may be more important than anything else.
Hold the hand of your terminally ill husband or wife.
Hugs may be too painful now, but a gentle touch to the hand is almost never a problem...and it's both welcome, and needed.
Dying is terribly isolating, terribly lonely. The world goes on, and the patient is leaving it. Slowly. The connexions to the wider world are torn away one by one.
Leaving the workforce.
Having to quit driving.
Having to quit going out, because it's just too painful and tiring.
Friends stop coming by, because they don't know what to say.
Conversation becomes hard, because it hurts to talk, and it's too tiring to think.
Pretty soon all that's left is sitting with the pain nd the heartache.
And, dear caregiver, that is where you come in. Take the hand that is empty, and just sit at the foot of that cross.
Touch is the final, and most important communication.
There can only be one musical theme today...
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