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Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 356 - Back In The High Life Again

This was supposed to be a post on what can happen when parents or in-laws want to be part of the caregiving team for one's spouse. I even have a cool title picked out - Dueling Caregivers.

Alas, I'm way to ill to make that happen at the moment, so this will have to do. It'll be pretty short.

This wasn't where I expected to be, at this point in life.

I went to the trouble of getting a doctorate in structural engineering, thinking I'd be teaching into those golden autumn years, surrounded by respectful students and admired by my...

Aw, crap. I can't go on. I'm laughing too hard.

I mean, seriously, what did I expect? A peaceful end? I'm a fighter, not a lover, and war is in my DNA.

I was made for this place, this time, this role, and this witness.

Can you imagine me as a white-haired grandfatherly type, sage and serene?

Sorry, just cracked up. Laughing hurts but it's fun...and I am back in the high life again.

I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.

Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.


And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.

If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.


  1. I appreciate your sense of humor! Thanks for keeping us laughing and looking at the funny side of life even in suffering.

    I enjoy the songs you share. Thanks for that! This is one I haven't heard for many, many years!

    1. Rachel, thank you so much! It sounds weird to say that I'm having fun, but in the midst of everything...I am. Pain does not preculde laughter. Only a lack of faith can do that.

      I'm so glad you enjoyed the song. It was really a natural for the subject.

      You're in our prayers, Rachel. Thank you so much for being here.

  2. Andrew love your stamina. You are doing so much more than I in answering your comments. I stay so far behind and go back to a long ago blog and see comments I missed. It's embarrassing. Heading over to visit your other spots. Hang in there!

    1. Deborah, thank you so much for this. Answering comments is tough, but it's also life-blood, and I know I'll feel better an more refreshed when I do it...if that makes sense.

      It's STARTING to answer that can be tough!

      So glad you're here!

  3. Andrew, thanks for sharing that you can still laugh in spite of your losses and pain. You made me smile.

    1. Debbie, thank YOU, and I am so glad I could share a smile! :)

  4. You are a fighter, that's for sure, Andrew! But I can totally see you as the grandfatherly type too--telling the gathering little ones your war stories. And they would be rapt with attention on your every word! But either way, I'm glad you're laughing and sipping the marrow out of each day of life, my friend! You rock!

    1. Beth, thanks so much! It is so odd, that the more reasons it seems I should not find joy in life, the more of it I DO find.

      Let us ROCK ON!

  5. Fighting never looked so bold.

    1. Wendy, thank you so much for this...truly, in a very real sense I'm having the time of my...uh, life. :)

      I can see graces round about me, graces I had heedlessly passed in pursuit of a chimera. This has slowed me down, and now I can walk in beauty, rather than run in striving.

  6. I think God must have a sense of humor and when you eventually get to Heaven you'll be laughing together.

    1. jan, I'm sure He does...and I think He delights when we laugh with Him!

      Thanks so much for being here.

  7. Yep, sometimes it's a choice between laughter and tears. And sometimes no matter what we choose they'll both come in tandem.

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