No Fear...remember the moto t-shirts?
Fear not, for I am with you...in perfect faith, yes, but in the real world...kind of hard to do.
I do know fear. With a really nasty illness, I live with it every day.
And I can create fear. I'm pretty well trained in things like "enhanced interrogation". Everyone breaks.
So how do we deal with it? If fearlessness isn't possible, where do we turn?
Control and compassion.
I think that the goal of faith isn't to overcome fear, but to control it, to be able to operate in spite of being scared out of our minds.
To know, deep down, that even if we hit The End, it's not really the end.
And compassion, for those moments when fear does take control. Compassion for our own scared and wounded hearts.
Circling back to marriage...there are things that are scary.
What if my spouse gets sick? What if he or she dies?
What if he or she stops loving me?
What if...what if...what if...
The whatifs don't go away because we want them to, or because we pray them away.
They get controlled, fenced in. We live with their presence, yes, but their presence is offset by a Larger Presence.
And that is God.
If you have a moment, please stop by at my other blog, Starting The Day With Grace.
This post is linked to Wedded Wednesday, a compendium of really cool posts on marriage. If you click on the logo below, you'll be taken to www.messymarriage.com, which is the springboard to a wealth of information. It's run by Beth Steffaniak, who has a heart for marriage and a soul for God!