As a caregiver, one thing you're likely to see is patient pride. Not the good kind that has patients gathering in solidarity at their continued worth in the face of illness, but the kind that has them refusing help when they patently need it, and thinking themselves superior for tolerating pain that mere mortals could not withstand.
For the first, sometimes you have to step back and let the nitwit...er, patient fall on his face. Standing in opposition can be too draining - sick people can be pretty unpleasant and ruthless, and as a caregiver your first duty is to take good care of yourself, both for your own sake and for the sake of the one in your care.
When it's just not going to work...for instance, if your patient, subject to dizzy spells, wants to go up on the roof to help you replace shingles - you have to be firm - and you have to find an alternative task that clearly needs doing, and isn't obvious make-work.
The patient wants to feel like a part of things? Fine. It's hard to hurt yourself while raking leaves, or pulling weeds, and chances are he or she will reach a physical limit and quietly back off, having saved face.
That's the key; pride can be stupid, but it's real, and your responsibility is to find an avenue of retreat that saves face.
Do no harm, and don't humiliate.
For the second, your patient thinking he or she is some kind of superhero may be intensely irritating, but it may not be a bad thing. We all need to take satisfaction in something, and if all we have is fighting our own body...there's little harm in turning that into a personal melodrama.
Besides, pain is relative and individual, and they may be right. Your patient may be waging a struggle that's truly heroic, and has the angels and God Himself standing in silent awe.
You'll never truly know. Why not give the benefit of the doubt?
A bit of news..."Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart" has come home! Tate Publishing has gone south, and I regained the rights, so it'll soon be available in both Kindle hardcopy versions once again. In the meantime, if you absolutely can't wait (!), you can still get used copies from Amazon.
I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.
Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
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