Or are you the ill spouse, looking for a gift that will be both meaningful and useful?
Here are a few suggestions; not all will be appropriate for every 'giver', but I hope that you, reading this, may find some inspiration.
Audiobooks - caregiving can be draining, and can eat into the time and energy one might otherwise spend reading or watching a DVD. Audiobooks may be an ideal choice; they can be utilized while doing chores like dishes or laundry...or just when things are quiet and one needs to relax without too much engagement.
An iTunes gift card - when one is too tired even for an audiobook, music can be soothing.
A pair of comfortable slippers - caregiving can require a lot of moving around, and a nice pair of shoes can make this a lot more bearable
Board games and puzzles - these are an excellent way for a caregiver and patient to remain connected as a couple.
Hand-held electronic games - great to help a patient keep occupied and mentally alert, and can be a relief for a caregiver who has to be on call whist his or her patient is sleeping.
Craft kits - really for the patient; one of the hard things about being a patient is the feeling of being useless, and the ability to make something beautiful and perhaps useful can make the caregiver's job in keeping up morale easier.
Promissory notes - these are 'tickets for help' that can be redeemed as the caregiver needs it, and can include -
- Picking up a meal and bringing it to the caregiver's house when cooking is too much of a burden
- Helping with cleaning
- Taking the patient for a day out so the caregiver can have some private time (or taking the kids, if there are children in the household)
- Taking care of pets
- Helping with yard care
- Washing and detailing the caregiver's car
- Going on a library run
Incense - a house in which chronic illness is present, especially when incontinence or frequent vomiting is an issue, can really need a touch of freshness. Incense (I like sandalwood) or a potpourri can make a big difference.
Premium cigars - while smoking is not very good for you (but remember Fidel Castro lived to be 90!) the smell of a good cigar can go along way toward masking odors and can give a surprisingly pleasant ambience...and for the patient, can provide a measure of relief for pain and nausea. I use them for the latter purpose, and can highly recommend Drew Estate 'Acid Blondie', Drew Estate 'Acid Earth', and Tatiana 'Groovy Blue' as three of the best. You can buy them online from several retailers - I use Thompson Cigar. For those on a budget (like me!) Swisher Sweets are surprisingly pleasant, and readily available at Wal-Mart. (Pipe tobacco can also leave a nice, nostalgic scent, but smoking and maintaining a pipe does take a bit more work.)
What do you think? Can you add any other useful and thoughtful gifts?
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