"A thing is not beautiful because it lasts." - ''Vision', played by Paul Bettany in The Avengers: Age Of Ultron
A lot of caregiving isn't beautiful. The fatigue, the worry, the occasional impatience, the mess, the smell, and the knowledge that things will only get worse...no, not beautiful.
But there are, hopefully, other moments, taken like flowers between the hard grey paving stones of circumstance.
The moments you and your spouse can enjoy together, and perhaps moments of humour, though it may sometimes be dark humour.
And it isn't going to last. One day, this duty, and this temporal relationship will end.
It may feel like an eternal donkey's path, turning the mill-wheel, but it's not. There will be a last time for all things, good and bad.
What you do with those moments is up to you, and yes, they do hold the capacity for wistfulmemory, or regret.
It's your choice dear caregiver - and dear patient - every day.
I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.
Marley update...he's probably going to be moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
WE ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!
He's up over 200,000 signatures, but PLEASE keep the pressure on. If you haven't signed, please do! Please click o his name in the paragraph below.
If you have a moment, I'd like to ask you to visit Change.org to consider a petition to free a 'death row dog' who has been separated from his family for ten months over a misunderstanding. Marley was saved from Afghanistan by a US serviceman; please help make sure this story doesn't end in needless tragedy! Marley's gotten a lot of support...but he still needs our help.
If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.
Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.