"To be really great in little things, to be truly noble and heroic in the insipid details of everyday life, is a virtue so rare as to be worthy of canonization."
This has a lot to say about the progress of a terminal illness, because there comes a time when one's no longer in the wide world, and maintaining care and regard for the common details of life, like grooming, courtesy, and punctuality in the duties one can yet undertake, are the only way the patient can still make his or her mark on the world.
The caregiver can help in this - a lot.
You can help by noticing.
It's human vanity to need an audience, but it's good to remember that the patient's world is so circumscribed by pain, fatigue, and the small and large humiliations of illness that he or she is receiving a constant steam of negative input. It's like having one's body as a hypercritical boss.
So, dear caregiver, drop compliments here and there. Notice the things that are done for you without your asking, and give praise for those.
It may sound stupid to be effusive over a cup of tea placed in your hands, or to say "Your hair looks nice" (when you'd really like to say it's about time you combed it).
But of these small graces is happiness made.
Much to my surprise, I decided to participate in a '31 Days' blogging exercise; rather than interrupt the flow of this post, I have another blog established, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Ariel Sharon) and a short commentary.
And now that October's over...I'm going to keep it going. I hope you'll join me.
Marley update...he's probably going to be moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.
WE ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!
He's up over 200,000 signatures, but PLEASE keep the pressure on. If you haven't signed, please do! Please click o his name in the paragraph below.
If you have a moment, I'd like to ask you to visit Change.org to consider a petition to free a 'death row dog' who has been separated from his family for ten months over a misunderstanding. Marley was saved from Afghanistan by a US serviceman; please help make sure this story doesn't end in needless tragedy! Marley's gotten a lot of support...but he still needs our help.
If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.
Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.