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Thursday, May 7, 2020

Your Dying Spouse 753 - To Show A Human Face {Five Minute Friday}

(Note to readers:  this is the post Andrew had intended for Five Minute Friday on May 7, 2020; he went down very hard before it could be complete and posted. Please excuse any typos, as it was not completely finished, and please understand that response to comments may be delayed/)

So...how did you do?

Did you see all of the videos of family teamwork, making masks from old phone books and rubber bands, while your big achievement was keeping the cat away from the toilet paper stash?

Did you see the enchanted couples working together to whip up gourmet meals every night, and enjoying candlelight and conversation, while you were making grilled cheese sandwiches...again?

Did you see people coming together (at proper social istancing intervals) to serenade the shut-in elderly, and then return to Netflix with a grumpily guilty conscience?

In other words...

Were you human?

And are you now beating yourself up, for having missed a good solid crisis that could showcase your fatih?

If you're a bit angry with yourself that you were sharp when you might have been kind, that you didn't fully appreciate those around you even when they got on your nerves, that you sometimes reacte with exasperation rather than smiling patience, well, you're not alone, for...

A long time ago in a place far, far away...

Matthew 17:15-17

Lord, have mercy on my son: for he is lunatick, and sore vexed: for ofttimes he falleth into the fire, and oft into the water.

And I brought him to thy disciples, and they could not cure him.
Then Jesus answered and said, O faithless and perverse generation, how long shall I be with you? how long shall I suffer you? bring him hither to me.

You can just see Jesus rolling His eyes, and Mary, in the background: "If You do that once that once too often they'll get stuck that way."

Matthew 21:12-13

And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves,

And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.

(The whip He made is described in John 2:15)

Overturning furniture and chasing people around with a whip does bring on an appetite...

Matthew 21:18-19

Now in the morning as he returned into the city, he hungered.

And when he saw a fig tree in the way, he came to it, and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it, Let no fruit grow on thee henceforward for ever. And presently the fig tree withered away.

Now, it's true that in the following verses, when the diciples were amaed that he could kill a tree with a word, Jesus turned it into a teaching experience on faith. But it started with the fact that He was hungry, and peeved that there were no figs.

A lot of people want these instances to be 'holified'; they want to see Jesus in a pure light where all of His irritation and impatience are grounded in Divinity, and that's fine, except for one thing.

We're turning away a gift He gave us, the gift of the human-ness He freely took on.

He came here to be one of us, to share our laughter and our tears, our joy and our pain, our fears (remember the Garden of Gethsemane), and yes, our anger and sometimes waspish irritation.

It's wrong to exclude Him, to put Him on a pedestal of our own making.

So be OK with yourself, and with the times you failed at being what you thought you were supposed to be.

He gets it.

One day soon you will emerge
to blink in unaccustomed light;
what grade do you think you’ve earned
in this long and dismal fight?
Did you reach out with kind heart
to those who shrank in fear,
to help them make a hope-filled start
in bringing Jesus near?
Or did you see the other side
of self beyond dim flick’ring taper,
trying to find a place to hide
your stash of toilet paper?
If you’re alive and you remain,
you have the chance to start again.

Music from The Bellamy Brothers.




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32 comments:

  1. Andrew! Get well!!! Jesus did walk with us didn't he? Fully human and yet.. divinely God.

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    1. Annette, thank you so much. It's a struggle. And I am so grateful for God.

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  2. Andrew, blessings of health infuse you as well as your wife- mental physical spiritual. To curse a tree with one word and have it destroyed is powerful- our words have life and death.
    Michele

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    1. Michele, thank you for this...and you're so right. Words have power.

      I choose to use words of hope.

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  3. (((((Andrew)))))
    (((((Barbara)))))

    Annie in Texas

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    1. ((((((Annie!))))))

      We are so grateful for you.

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  4. Absolutely THE BEST of you. Love you both. xoxo

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    1. Susan, thank you so much! XOXOXO right back!

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  5. Beautiful words, Andrew. You are such an inspiration despite your circumstances, and I'm sure the Lord smiles down on you saying "my good and faithful servant." You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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    1. Great Granny Grandma, thank you so much for this...you just made my day!

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  6. I've been away from my blog for months, as other things have taken precedence. Every week when I see the FMF linkup in my email, I think of you and wonder if you are still here writing your posts. I was so glad to see your post this morning! But I'm sorry you are not well enough to finish it on your own. The Lord bless you and your wonderful wife.

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    1. I'm not sure who you are...but I thank so from the bottom of my heart for your warm and lovely comment.

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  7. Wow. Beautiful. Thank you for the gift of the reminder of considering him in his humanity. Prayers for you.

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    1. Beth, thank you so much for these affirming words, and most especially for your prayers.

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    1. Thank you so much...prayers are SO important.

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  9. Praying for Andrew. Good post. Sorry for the misfortune. I hope tomorrow is a better day. Thinking of you two.

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    1. My dear Norma, this means so much. Thank you.

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  10. Real prayers, virtual hugs. Love to both you & dear Barb,
    Kathryn in SC

    "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases..."

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    1. Kathryn, prayers and hugs are super-appreciated.

      And the Scripture's perfect.

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  11. Sending love and gratitude to you both.

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  12. As always, beatiful and true. Praying for you both.

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    1. Suzette, thank you so much for your kind words, and especially your prayers.

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  13. Praying you're feeling better. So sad to read this... These words though, SO POWERFULLY TRUE. The "were you human?" really got me. He gets it... I need to have more grace.

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    1. Misty, thank you so much...I'm still here, but a lot worse than before.

      I'm so glad this post resonated with you!

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  14. Andrew, your words highlight things I've been grappling with. Comparison and holding our humanity up against the ways others are responding in a given moment leads only to a sense of defeat. I loved, LOVED how you remind us that Jesus on earth was fully human and fully divine.

    I needed this today. Thank you, friend. I'm praying for you and Barb.

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    1. Jeanne, I'm so glad you found something worthwhile here, and am truly grateful for your prayers.

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  15. Dear Andrew, I’d like to send you and Barbara a comp copy of my new novel, ANGEL MOUNTAIN. You have been an inspiration and support in its creation. Thank you for all you are doing for all of us readers. We need the insight and encouragement. If you would like a copy as a small thank you please email me where to send it. csunderland47@gmail.com Blessings to you both, Christine

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    1. Christine, wow! Thank you so much! Sending an email now.

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