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Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 402 - The Pit Of Despair

When Barb came home this afternoon, she too one look at me and said, "How can I help?"

I thought for a minute, and then said, "Well, surgery, radiation and chemo would be good...but you can have dinner first."

And that, dear readers, is how you cope with a day in the lowest circle of pain-and-nausea hell. With a bad joke that makes your dear wife wince.

I mean, a day that begins with an urgent laundry-run, and continues through puking on poor Humphrey the Pit Bull...it ind of went downhill from there to here, as I type this.

Humphrey took it in stride. When my knees buckled, he sat next to me and ept me propped up.

It was a day when one wanted nothing more than to curl up on a sofa in a foetal position, and half-listen to a funny movie.

But that's not the way to handle the lowest circle of hell. You've got to get up and do.

You've got to stay focused on the next task, and however long it takes, accomplish it. Then move on to the one after that

It begs the question of Why, when all really does feel lost...and the answer's simple.

My life was worth living yesterday, and it's worth living today. I may not accomplish much, but I can do one small thing, or two...and the important thing, for climbing out of that pit, is not the quantity of accomplishment.

It's the intention, that bright center of which hope is made.

Music today from Joe Jackson, with Steppin' Out. I mean, why not?

I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.

Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.


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  1. May Godbless you I feel he has directed me to your page today and I am strengthened and encouraged to stay firm and delve deeper with my faith today jane x

  2. There is no way to compare our levels of pain on this earth and I won't even try, but I know what you mean when you say you have to get up and do. Praying for you.

  3. My friend, You carry on when most would quit. So proud of you. I can't imagine the strength of fortitude it takes to meet each moment of every day with courage and determination. You show us what perseverance is. And Barbara, each day is a challenge for her as well. I'm proud of her for being steadfast and caring, not buckling when the worst seems to surface and compromise the little joys. I'm glad you stay the course and are still writing. I enjoy each and every one of your posts. Still praying.