Why we're here...

Love and marriage are the greatest adventures in life, and they point they way to our relationship with the Almighty.

We're honored to be a member of the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association...click on their logo to visit them.


Sunday, March 29, 2015

Impostor Spouse (Wedded Wednesday)

"Who are YOU and what did you do with my husband?!"

Does that sound familiar? You can be rubbing along comfortably for years...you think you know the person who's sharing your life and your bed.

And then...boom.

Something comes roaring in from left field..usually something unpleasant, or at least unsettling...and the thought arises, unbidden but impossible to squelch -

"Who IS this person?"

If you've lucky, it's just a rogue wave, a blip on the surface of personality, caused by stress or circumstance. Give it time, it'll pass, and it'll never come again.

But sometimes it's a sea change...things are different now. Something happened, and you don't know what...but you have to deal with it.

The temporary aberrations just need patience...they can come from anything from transient body chemistry phenomena (hormones, or illness) to something as banal as a recently-watched film. (For the latter, ladies, consider this...if your husband tends to use bad language, does it seem to get worse after he watches a film with a lot of cursing?)

These things pass, and the best strategy is usually forbearance, with a large dollop of humour.

The big and seemingly long-term changes, though,  need a different approach, because they can have serious roots, such as depression, or a serious physical profile. We'll talk about that next week.

Meanwhile, if your marriage has nothing just gone through a Hobbit movie marathon and is contemplating the growth of a beard and the wearing of a wizard's pointy hat...smile.

And be careful not to roll your eyes too far. Remember what Mom said.

They can get stuck that way.

Still writing these on a borrowed Smart Phone, so replies to comments will call be slow...but please do comment!

And we are linked to Wedded Wednesday at www.messymarriage.com.


  1. It's so easy to get immersed in the moment and forget that something else may be causing our spouse's momentary bad attitude or cantankerous mood. Then "we" are letting that unpleasant moment change us for the worse! Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! Thanks for this inspiring reminder to be patient in the good and the not-so-good moments with our mates.

    1. Absolutely right, and beautifully said Thanks, Beth!

  2. Often we react badly to change even when it is good. We tend to want things just as they are!

  3. I was diagnose with human papilloma virus (HPV) 4 years ago and i met a doctor he told me there is no cure and i have be taking some medication the warts multiplied when trying to removed them and it got me embarrass and pains, luckily few weeks ago i was recommend to Dr Onokun for natural treatment after one week i got 100% cure and all the wart and pains got disappeared, i sheared this post because its part of my life experience, encase anyone need speedy help about this cure email Dr Onokun via, dronokunherbalcure@gmail.com