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Friday, December 5, 2014

What We Hold Dear - Five Minute Friday

I am back...sort of. Not quite myself, but I'm going to try. And I am so very, very grateful for the prayers, support, and love I have received.

One day I will write about what happened - traumatic amnesia is a singular event. But I can't do that now.

Instead, once again, it's Five-Minute Friday, hosted by Kate Montaug. The challenge is to write for five minutes on a given "theme word", posted by Kate on Thursday night...and then stop when the timer dings.

But for me, it's going to take longer; and I will write less. It is the best I can do, and I ask your pardon for the awkwardness.

Today's word is dear.


The first thing that came to mind was a fragment of  a poem by Richard Lovelace:

I could love, thee, dear, so much,
loved I not honor more.

We all want romance; no exceptions. Some men try to hide the longing, and some women do, as well.

But there is a price to be able to love fully, and that's loving with honor. Loving when someone is hard to love, believing when faith and trust seem dead, being loyal when you've been repaid by betrayal.

Because you made a promise.

That stuff happens in marriage - all of it.

And honor is not holding onto love, but holding onto the honor of a promise, because that's what we can most closely hold dear.


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  1. I loved this, Andrew. Holding onto the honor of a promise....we may not always feel love for our spouses, but that doesn't matter. We promised to love them, even when we may not feel like it. Thanks for speaking truth through your words. So well said!

    1. Thanks, Jeanne. And thank you so much for your friendship and support.

      You make a difference in my life.

  2. Holding onto the honor of a promise. Yes. Marriage is very much this. I'm sorry to hear of your traumatic amnesia, and grateful for the courage and grace you found to write this today.

    1. Thank you, Amber.

      I'm still stepping from rock to rock, as it were, in finding my way back...but I am glad to be here.

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    1. It's good to be here, Sis. Thank you so very, very much, for being there for me.

  4. Hey man ... good to see you back! And a big thanks to your wife and sister for keeping us informed about your health.

    You've got a great group of fans and lots of people who pray surrounding you. May God give you peace ...

    Please do keep writing as you can!

    1. Linda, thank you. I am so humbled by the outpouring of support. Truly, the Body of Christ in action.

      I will try to keep to my normal schedule, though the posts may be shorter as I find my way "back". But one day, God willing, it will be as it was.

      Not completely as it was, actually, for I will take lessons of Love with me into the future.

  5. Holding on to the honor of a promise, I love that. So glad you are back.

  6. It was so great that we knew you were okay. Thank you to Jennifer. Honoring that promise to your spouse and to God is huge. The heart is not always truthful; we need to keep behaving our way with our promise. It is a choice. Love your 5MinuteFriday.

    So glad you are back, Andrew.

    1. Thanks, Kim. It is more tiring than it was - hard to think through things, sometimes - but I am glad to have been privileged to return.

  7. Beautiful, Andrew. So thankful you are back to writing. That was scary.

    You have made a huge impact on so many ...

    1. It was scary, yes, and still is, but the unfamiliarity is fading.

      Thank you so much for your kind thoughts, and for your friendship, and for your lovely, shining faith.

  8. I love the word promise and all it holds within especially when we hold fast to it. The honor of a promise is what we hold dear and this should be enough when we have dedicated ourselves to someone or something in our lives. I am glad to see you here and I happen to be your neighbor at Beth's place today. Blessings!