Buy it. Read it. Live it.
But he left one out. It's the one I call Love Language #0.
You may think it's a given, but look around you. How many men and women do you know who have undermined their wives or husbands in casual conversation, to vent...or, worst, to try to be funny?
And look in a mirror.
Have you ever complained about your spouse to a friend or acquaintance? (Talking to a counselor doesn't count, obviously. Real problems require professional help. Friends and family are not professionals. Period.)
I have. And in so doing, I was disloyal, and am taking this moment, in this blog, to apologize.
It was dishonorable. It was taking advantage of an opportunity to deny my wife the telling of 'her side of the story'. Even though I made the 'noble effort' to be evenhanded - my aim was to elevate myself, and put her down. Put her down in the eyes of others.
Totally wrong. An affront to fair play, and I think an affront to God.
Does loyalty mean swallowing hurts, and putting up with what is sometimes unbearable?
Does loyalty mean "my spouse, right or wrong"?
Does loyalty mean saying to yourself, "I will hold my tongue because I might be wrong"?
Marriages today are rarely forced. We have the option to go into them with eyes open, and when while we eagerly look at the benefits, we rarely count the cost...and that may mean living a season,. or several, in a marriage that's not working.
And not complaining about it..
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