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Saturday, December 16, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 426 - A Caregiver's Open Arms {#adventphoto2017}

When the angel let Joseph and Mary know what was ahead of them, they couldn't know the specifics. They had to accept the whole package, sight unseen.

I think that's a bit like what a caregiver has to do...you don't know the exact road, but you may be tempted to think you do, that it'll be a literal trail of tears.

And that may not be completely true. You may find some unexpected joys...like the go-getter who, on contracting a fatal illness, discovers the joy of the mellow life, one that doesn't need a hard and shining goal. The cell phone constantly at the ear may be replaced by an ear open to conversation.

An ear open to you.

Open your arms, dear caregiver, and give the future a chance.

Music is from Creed, with With Arms Wide Open.


Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is open.


Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal
December 12 - A Table In The Presence
December 14 - Into The Mystery

Please pardon my slow response to comments. I'm doing my best, and your comments are really precious to me.

I'm really not doing well at all.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback in a few days!

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.


Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.


If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.







Friday, December 15, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 425 - A Caregiver's Whole Heart {#adventphoto2017}

Mary was a caregiver.

She knew the path that her baby would have to grow to walk, and while she knew that God would strengthen His Son, she didn't know how that strengthening would manifest.

She knew that He was in her care, and whatever God did, she also had to give her whole heart in raising Jesus to be strong or the human journey he faced.

So too, the caregiver for a terminally ill husband or wife.

God is preparing me as I walk ever further into my personal inferno; but I need Barb's help, too, perhaps more than she knows.

I need to hear that each day that I fight my hardest is worthwhile, however little I accomplish in the business of life. I need to hear that the contributions I can still make are valued, and notmeasured against what I could do before, but are taken as the greatest gift I can give now, under the present fell circumstance.

I need her whole heart of faith and hope and love, because I can't do this alone.

Music is from 3 Doors Down, with Kryptonite. Rock on!



Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is whole.


Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal
December 12 - A Table In The Presence

Please pardon my slow response to comments. I'm doing my best, and your comments are really precious to me.

I'm really not doing well at all.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback in a few days!

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.


Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.


If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.







Thursday, December 14, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 424 - Into The Mystery {FMF/#adventphoto2017}

Joseph and Mary were going to Joseph's home town...and that familiar place became different, leading them into the greatest Mystery of all time. (Different is this week's Five Minute Friday prompt.)

I, too, shall soon see a mystery revealed...for I am going home. I reckon it will be soon, but I'll keep fighting this to the end.

It's quite a fight. I said to Barb yesterday that the end isn't going to be pretty. She replied, "It's not pretty now, and hasn't been for quite a while."

Yeah, well. Always said I would not go gentle into that good night. This is my chance to live up to brave words. In a welter of blood and puke and worse things.

And tears, admitted now because I'm past that point of shame.

But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep.

And miles to go before I sleep.

Music from Mary Fahl, from the film Gods And Generals.


Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is mystery.


Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal
December 12 - A Table In The Presence

Please pardon my slow response to comments. I'm doing my best, and your comments are really precious to me.

I'm really not doing well at all.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback in a few days!

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.


Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.


If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.







Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 423 - Caregiver, You Belong To God {#adventphoto2017}

Too ill to say much but this - dear caregiver, when you feel hemmed in by circumstance, by demands and duties, and by the implacable cruelty of watching someone you love die, remember that your husband or wife belongs to God...and so do you.

So Mary must have reminded herself, carrying the Baby within her, and then holding Him in her arms, and knowing the road ahead.

I hope it was a comfort to her, as I hope it is a comfort to you.

Here's Jesu, Joy Of Man's Desiring, performed by Celtic Woman.


Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is belong.


Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal

Please pardon my slow response to comments. I'm doing my best, and your comments are really precious to me.

I'm really not doing well at all.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback in a few days!

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.


Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.


If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.















Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Your Dying Spouse 422 - A Table In The Presence {#adventphoto2017}

The Holy Family was soon to be among enemies.

King Herod felt a threat, and soon the land would be filled with weeping, but God made a way and a place for Mary, Joseph, and the infant Jesus.

As a caregiver, you can feel pretty surrounded as well. There's the illness, of course...and the side-effects of medications...and the well-meaning people who manage to say the very wrong thing.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. (Ps. 23:5 KJV)

The table contains your manna, the strength to get through each day, continually refreshed but impossible to hoard, because you're not supposed to look too far down the road.

And the anointing is your duty.

Music from Third Day, with Cry Out To Jesus.




Today's keyword for Advent-Photo-A-Day is presence.


Previous posts in this series are

December 4 - A Caregiving Home
December 6 - A Caregiver's Vision
December 8 - A Caregiver's Renewal

Please pardon my slow response to comments. I'm doing my best, and your comments are really precious to me.

I'm really not doing well at all.

Thanks to Carol Ashby, Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart is back on Kindle, and will be available in paperback in a few days!

Friends are everything. I couldn't have done it.

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.


Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

And marley has a Facebook page! Please drop by to see how happy he is today.


If you can, please do leave a comment. I am trying to answer all, and I am failing, but please know this - I read and treasure each one.

Below are my recent releases on Kindle -please excuse their presence in the body of the blog. I haven't the energy to get them up as 'buttons' in the sidebar. You can click on the covers to go to the Amazon links.