Your Dying Spouse 371 - Create A Caregiver Haven {#write31days}

A friend of Barbara's did a beautiful thing.

She has a spare room, and made it up as a place where Barb can stay and decompress, when everything just gets too much to bear.

I'm not a terrible patient, and hope B considers me non-demanding, but just having to live through the hours she spends in my presence...seeing how hard it is for me to rise, and to speak, and how pallid and hurt I return after a trip to the lav...sometimes she just needs a refuge.

And now she has one. She can sit in a comfortable chair, secure in the knowledge that she won't hear me retching, and watch a movie, read a book, or doze.

She can look out at the mountains, and help her friend in the yard, without half-listening for the frenzied barking that may indicate that I have fallen.

This is wonderful. I can still stay alone (I mean, I function while Barb works, after all) and I want, more than anything, that she look on the time that we can still spend together as something to treasure, not a burden whose weight is to be dreaded as she comes home in the evening, and the weekend closes in.

I want her to have a place to rest, where her spirit can be light.

Do you know a caregiver who needs a haven?

This is part of #write31days with Five Minute Friday, and today's prompt is create.

The appropriate song is, of course, Rescue Me!

Somehow I ended up doing two #write31days blogs; the other is on Starting The Day With Grace.  I'd be honoured if you'd drop by.

I do ask that you be patient with my slow replies to your comments (which we treasure). I'm trying to stay caught up.

Still hoping to get the new and improved version of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart up and running in the near future. Just haven't had the energy to do it yet...but if you would like to read it, please say so in your comment and I'd be glad to send you a PDF (which should fit your Kindle).

I have another blog, "Starting The Day With Grace". The focus is a grace quote from someone you might not expect (like, say Mick Jagger) and a short commentary. I hope you'll join me.

Marley update... been moved to a sanctuary, and Bay County will revise their 'dangerous dog' codes.

WE MADE A DIFFERENCE!

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