It's Five-Minute Friday, hosted by Kate Montaung. The challenge is to write for five minutes on a given "theme word", posted by Kate on Thursday night...and then stop when the timer dings.
There will be a two week hiatus from Five-Minute Fridays over Christmas and New Years', but I will be here.
Today's word is adore.
GO.
The first thing that came to mind was a college anecdote - a young man walked into the library, and from the open door called out to the rather pretty girl at the checkout desk (on whom he had a major crush), "Je t'adore!"
Without looking up, she replied, "Shut it yourself."
Have you ever had one of those moments in your marriage, when you want to make an adoring gesture, and it just falls completely flat?
Road kill?
What do you do?
The worst thing to do is,of course, pull back, and not try that again. The thing is, marriage is all about embarrassment, humiliation, and feeling like an idiot...because you are with someone who recognizes that you can indeed be pretty dumb, and is free to call you on it.
So, what do you do?
Pick up your ego, shake off the dust and gravel, and have another go.
That's what adoration is all about. It's not expecting a specific return.
It's a gift.
STOP
Whoa! FOUR minutes!
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That's what makes marriage so much fun! It's fun to discover what makes your spouse happy, what makes him or her feel adored--and it's important to remember that we change :).
ReplyDeleteExactly right. It does make it fun...and so, if we let them, do the changes we go through!
DeleteLoved your post! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Barbara!
DeleteOh yes - Marriage is tough... it has highs and lows... but always - it takes sacrifice and brave and trying (and failing at times) and trying again! Adoration helps! ;) Great post! We are neighbors over at Kate's for FMF!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, Karrilee. Marriage does fulfill that definition of success...you have to get up one more time than you fall down.
DeleteI am not married but everything you say is so true and I firmly believe that when we can be complete idiots around someone and joke about it afterwards without hurt feelings or a grudge to come up at a later date that just maybe we are with someone that God has intended to be in our lives! We are more blessed than we could even know and marriage is icing on the cake, even when he does smash it into your face :D
ReplyDeleteGreat point. The freedom to be daffy and silly without worry is a really good sign; to know that someone will catch both your heart and your soul, and care for them.
DeleteAnd I LOVE the "icing on the cake" pimage! You gave me a good laugh.
Marriage is hard work. People need to really, really think before they take those vows. It will take a lifetime to fulfill them.
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely right. It is hard work; very much a labour of love.
DeleteThank you for being here, Paula. I appreciate your stopping by.
To be married is to place one's heart outside the body in the hands of another. It is tough, yet such a blessing. Stopped by from #FMFparty.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful image, Leah. Thank you for that - it's perfect.
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