tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post8083181337970574971..comments2024-03-28T20:57:55.651-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 220 - Your Best Caregiving, RejectedAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-17453437793668337312016-10-20T12:11:19.834-07:002016-10-20T12:11:19.834-07:00Once again, you nailed it! I'm sharing a link ...Once again, you nailed it! I'm sharing a link to this post in my weekly newsletter!blestbutstresthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02058280295906350992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-8165140424989463252016-10-19T08:46:28.325-07:002016-10-19T08:46:28.325-07:00I can be really good at being a jerk.I can be really good at being a jerk.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16134491640460300081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-38599509240675863642016-10-18T13:28:52.491-07:002016-10-18T13:28:52.491-07:00Andrew, thank you for your perspective. And for th...Andrew, thank you for your perspective. And for the reminder that there's a lot going on with the patient fighting illness that a "well person" may have difficulty relating to. One thing I hear in your posts is that, as a care giver, I need to be present with my loved one. Attentive in the moments I'm with them or serving them. Hard to do at times, but necessary.Jeanne Takenakahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17259877343251555463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-85561102681683611292016-10-18T05:38:19.108-07:002016-10-18T05:38:19.108-07:00a fascinating post, as ever, pal ...a fascinating post, as ever, pal ...Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-83411778524122348872016-10-17T21:55:15.794-07:002016-10-17T21:55:15.794-07:00Norma, you're in my prayers daily...and you...Norma, you're in my prayers daily...and you're right, frustration is a huge stimulus to anger. I've been guilty of that, though not so often lately.<br /><br />And grace...yes, EXACTLY. When I've found it hard to extend grace as a person, I've tried to remember that I'm actually a channel, a conduit that can let God's grace flow...or choose to cut it off. I haven't done all that well, but there are times when I've remembered my true role...and for those I am grateful. Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-81312082051919933832016-10-17T21:51:49.861-07:002016-10-17T21:51:49.861-07:00Paula, thank you so much for this...knowing the ro...Paula, thank you so much for this...knowing the road you have walked makes your thoughts precious.<br /><br />My wife does know where to find these essays, but she doesn't often read them as she's got a very challenging job. But I never know when she might drop by!<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-85959680139541758582016-10-17T21:45:21.692-07:002016-10-17T21:45:21.692-07:00Beth, she doesn't...her responsibilities at wo...Beth, she doesn't...her responsibilities at work have expanded so much that tonight )for example) she was making notes over dinner, on how to handle accounting protocols...and how to teach them.<br /><br />Hugs back, and so grateful that you're here!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-63831675096503058052016-10-17T21:44:10.717-07:002016-10-17T21:44:10.717-07:00Michele, thank you so much! There is an old saying...Michele, thank you so much! There is an old saying that applies here, I think...if we assume that pain causes impatience, well..."impatience is the sin of the just".<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-81654811907202980772016-10-17T11:41:26.521-07:002016-10-17T11:41:26.521-07:00I am reminded of something I heard long ago. The w...I am reminded of something I heard long ago. The writer was talking about the caregiver of a cancer patient. The patient was belligerent, angry, uncooperative. The caregiver was discouraged, emotionally bruised, and weary. The caregiver was told 'the anger the patient is directing at you is anger at the disease which has robbed them of their ability to live like they used to.'<br />I've thought of that in relationship to the caregiving of my elderly parents. It is frustrating for them and me. That's where grace has to come in. When I can extend grace it makes it easier for all of us. Grace is powerful for it changes our attitude. I learned this from a friend who had learned to act from a place of grace rather than frustration. It helps.Meridian Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13415904614368419453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-47562850400321019622016-10-17T09:37:25.039-07:002016-10-17T09:37:25.039-07:00It is truly hard to be the caregiver and try to fi...It is truly hard to be the caregiver and try to figure this all out on our own. It is good that you are putting it all out there for others to see. We never get to see this side of the coin. I sure hope you allow your wife to read your blog. But then again it might make you want to stifle your words. Good reminders Andrew!!Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-63459289551929038622016-10-17T09:09:35.846-07:002016-10-17T09:09:35.846-07:00Does Barbara read these contrite and thoughtful po...Does Barbara read these contrite and thoughtful posts, Andrew? If she doesn't, she will miss out on so much of your beautiful heart that is on display here on the pages of your blog. Thank you for being so vulnerable and still so very practical. Hugs to you, my friend!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-71859189623405849162016-10-17T05:16:13.442-07:002016-10-17T05:16:13.442-07:00I need this reminder, too, Andrew, because I tend ...I need this reminder, too, Andrew, because I tend to process pain as anger and to lash out at the undeserving. I'm always gobsmacked by your honesty.Michele Morinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814119096056835884noreply@blogger.com