tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post5839918376496512748..comments2024-03-29T05:47:23.798-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 4 - Death WishAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-20508868095787353962015-05-13T20:07:01.477-07:002015-05-13T20:07:01.477-07:00Oh, Beth...that must have been so very hard.
I ha...Oh, Beth...that must have been so very hard.<br /><br />I have found that there are days I'm ok with dying...and other times, definitely not. Usually, it's "not"; not from a lack of faith, but because I'm just very irritated with the whole process. I am very highly trained to survive, and I am very good at it.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-2135686218611423852015-05-13T07:46:38.291-07:002015-05-13T07:46:38.291-07:00I remember watching my dad die from a rare sarcoma...I remember watching my dad die from a rare sarcoma. It took him rather quickly--in about 4 months. But I also remember him saying that he prayed that God would take the cancer from him. This astounded me because he was a pastor and loved God deeply. I thought with all the pain he was going through he would want to go on, but he didn't on that day. And this broke my heart. I wished that he wouldn't say that because I just wanted him to be okay with dying--so I could be okay with him dying. Selfish, I know, but it was the way my thinking went on that day. Prayers for you, Andrew!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-33332143105947315742015-05-12T19:52:10.184-07:002015-05-12T19:52:10.184-07:00Barbara, your road is harder than most can imagine...Barbara, your road is harder than most can imagine.<br /><br />My prayers are with you, and I appreciate yours...and yeah, I'll keep writing.<br /><br />It's my best legacy.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-65818786813086858472015-05-12T10:05:11.225-07:002015-05-12T10:05:11.225-07:00Your words, as always, strike a chord with me...al...Your words, as always, strike a chord with me...although my spouse/mate/whatever is not actually dying...I know there is that possibility for the future - at some point; and my thoughts go to the "single status" again sometimes; and that is not how I should be thinking of a spouse who needs someone to be his ears and his whatever, as well as his loving spouse. It is hard; and as I read about Alzheimer's disease and other illnesses from the sick person's perspective; and read your posts from YOUR perspective - it helps to put my mind and heart and thoughts in the right perspective.<br /><br />Keep on writing and sharing as much as you can; you are a blessing to one and all - and still praying with you, Andrew! Thank you for all of your words!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16954512718777249848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-91774129380949353982015-05-11T20:10:35.709-07:002015-05-11T20:10:35.709-07:00Thanks, Michelle; you're absolutely right that...Thanks, Michelle; you're absolutely right that the eventual death just snowballs the emotions.<br /><br />Clearing the decks is a good metaphor, and intentionally speaking words of affirmation is vital.<br /><br />It's also important to give a degree of hope, insofar as it's possible. This means, say, for a writer...encouraging him or her to keep writing, to stay engaged in the wrought community. There may be no reasonable hope for representation, or time to go through the implementation of a publishing contract, but just trying can raise morale, and give a person reason enough to face the day.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-79856597936968233092015-05-11T20:02:36.402-07:002015-05-11T20:02:36.402-07:00I gave this one a lot of thought; I've seen th...I gave this one a lot of thought; I've seen the phenomenon from both sides.<br /><br />The most important thing is that these feelings don't indicate a lack of love. They're simply the result of being placed in a situation in which there's no really positive outlook, and the heart takes the self-defense posture of looking past the ordeal.<br /><br />And thank you so much for the prayers.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-36345071769770156982015-05-11T10:21:26.583-07:002015-05-11T10:21:26.583-07:00A brave post.
Also true of dying relatives, not b...A brave post.<br /><br />Also true of dying relatives, not because you don't love them but because the pain, suffering and fear are so overwhelming.<br /><br />But of course the eventual death only exacerbates the feelings.<br /><br />I always pray people use this time to bless and say words of affirmation--clear the decks if you will--so that both the loved one and you are at peace when the end finally comes.<br /><br />Prayers.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923419970411995127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-49272440592319063442015-05-11T05:58:31.041-07:002015-05-11T05:58:31.041-07:00Hard truths. But appreciated ones. May I keep thes...Hard truths. But appreciated ones. May I keep these in my heart for now and may God release them again to me when the time is right. You're still blessing us, Andrew. Thank you, friend. Prayers are with you for this day.Lisa notes...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07103364395238899215noreply@blogger.com