tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post2845345764734415034..comments2024-03-26T13:47:55.472-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 378 - A Caregiver's Listening Heart {#write31days}Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-53786479179470861542017-10-12T10:54:02.822-07:002017-10-12T10:54:02.822-07:00I pray I am doing this with Jerry. I try to make s...I pray I am doing this with Jerry. I try to make sure he knows that. To be in the moment with him and let him know he can always count on me. In the end, I hope it will have been enough.<br /><br />I can only imagine the struggle that this creates for you and Barbara, both together and separately. I'll add that to our daily prayer list for you guys.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17073882040193144070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-63214862338910076022017-10-12T02:58:03.405-07:002017-10-12T02:58:03.405-07:00Nailed with TRUTH. Truth always wins, doesn't ...Nailed with TRUTH. Truth always wins, doesn't it?Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14364430951695372897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-67847242087516858952017-10-11T22:01:24.601-07:002017-10-11T22:01:24.601-07:00Maryleigh, I'm so sorry for your aunt. I can&#...Maryleigh, I'm so sorry for your aunt. I can't imagine how rough that must be for her, and for you, in having to face the issues that have to be dealt with. There's no one right way to do it, but sometimes it's scary - there seem to be so many wrong ways, ways that can cause hurt and alienation!<br /><br />We truly appreciate your prayers, and we'll keep you and your aunt in ours.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-4894850119842245172017-10-11T21:57:07.949-07:002017-10-11T21:57:07.949-07:00Beth, thank you so much for this...we do appreciat...Beth, thank you so much for this...we do appreciate and need your prayers. Roles are reversed today; Barb has an intestinal issue and I am the caregiver.<br /><br />Hope I do as well today as she does every day.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here, my friend.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-44276168258414768342017-10-11T10:44:47.066-07:002017-10-11T10:44:47.066-07:00My aunt is 87. She lost her oldest sister last yea...My aunt is 87. She lost her oldest sister last year and it was really hard on her. She doesn't have children. I've always said that when my dad walked out on my mom, it took 3 women to make up for the void he left. My aunt is one of those 3 women. She fell apart after her sister died. She's declining and doesn't want to talk about things that need talking about - health issues, whether she can stay at home alone (I live a state away and she doesn't want to move to us) - and it's hard when someone you love won't talk about what's really happening right now - so that you both can take care of today better - and in taking care of today better prepare for tomorrow. It's tough to know when to take a gentler route and when to be more real and direct. I, personally, dislike cliched responses, that are more etiquette-driven than soul driven. Thank you for the honest, direct insight in this journey. Praying for both you and your wife - that you both vintage the blessing in the right now - and give the hard of tomorrow to God to take care of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-48801411597450255562017-10-11T06:56:56.151-07:002017-10-11T06:56:56.151-07:00Oh so hard not to filter, Andrew, but you are so r...Oh so hard not to filter, Andrew, but you are so right. It's not something the caregiver can manage for the terminal spouse. My heart breaks for what you and Barbara must face every single day. But I'm also grateful that you are still with us so far. You know that I'm praying for you and your sweet wife, my friend! Thanks for sharing so vulnerably about your day to day struggle. Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-32398304419185807932017-10-10T21:08:55.219-07:002017-10-10T21:08:55.219-07:00Mary, I think you're right; there's a Zen ...Mary, I think you're right; there's a Zen of Caregiving that makes life bearable by just being in that moment, looking neither forward nor back.<br /><br />I'm so grateful that you;re here, and I do feel loved, held, and heard.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-2775449581674526592017-10-10T20:58:43.944-07:002017-10-10T20:58:43.944-07:00Tara, that is so true. I just heard on television ...Tara, that is so true. I just heard on television that holding in grief is like taking a breath and not letting it out. Apt, don't you think?Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-45197306970635679142017-10-10T20:12:15.995-07:002017-10-10T20:12:15.995-07:00Lesley, I figure that listening is like staying at...Lesley, I figure that listening is like staying at the Foot of the Cross, eh?<br /><br />Thanks so much for being here.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-31429754687832116282017-10-10T17:21:29.127-07:002017-10-10T17:21:29.127-07:00Maybe a caregiver should just stay in the moment, ...Maybe a caregiver should just stay in the moment, cause that is all they have right now. When we talk future, we are talking what we haven't experienced, no matter how much we think we know of it. The comfort is for now, not then. Thanks Andrew for these thoughts. I am guilty of talking future. May you be loved now, held now, heard now,Mary Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17528465484642169618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-52479104403588567912017-10-10T15:51:21.166-07:002017-10-10T15:51:21.166-07:00So important to hear these words. Grief is a hard ...So important to hear these words. Grief is a hard thing but part of life. Tara Ulrichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619365758739247929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-1079511902867580512017-10-10T14:17:59.971-07:002017-10-10T14:17:59.971-07:00Thanks for sharing this perspective, Andrew. It i...Thanks for sharing this perspective, Andrew. It is so important to hear. There is huge power in just listening and being there for someone.Lesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12698239597149299662noreply@blogger.com