tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post1787398858534003699..comments2024-03-29T05:47:23.798-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 379 - Caregiving Remembrances? {#write31days}Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-71106760831860415182017-10-12T23:39:11.618-07:002017-10-12T23:39:11.618-07:00Diana, thank you so much for sharing this. I appla...Diana, thank you so much for sharing this. I applaud the love and compassion - for Jerry, for yourself,and for your shared life - that simply overflows this comment.<br /><br />And good thought on shredding ID bracelets. I had not considered that.<br /><br />Blessings and prayers appreciated, and sent your way as well, to you and Jerry, from both of us.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-84539860370913286782017-10-12T10:25:01.872-07:002017-10-12T10:25:01.872-07:00Yes. I've done this. I have photos of Jerry th...Yes. I've done this. I have photos of Jerry throughout the years... at home before it all began, in the hospitals right before surgeries, shortly after surgeries, when we thought he'd be okay, when we found out he wouldn't be okay... as he's inexorably continued to decline in health. I have photos of the joy-filled days, the absolute bottom heart-broken days, the calm days, the rough days. I have it all. Because it's our life. I've never thought twice about taking those photos over the decades. As for saving *things*... no. There really hasn't been much in the way of *save-able* items. (I've always shredded hospital ID bracelets for privacy reasons.)<br /><br />This is our life. This is my husband. There's no reason in my mind to avoid remembering it.<br /><br />Thank you, Andrew, for once again bringing the caregiver to the forefront! Blessings and prayers as always for you guys!Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17073882040193144070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-18830031365203884002017-10-11T22:14:10.276-07:002017-10-11T22:14:10.276-07:00Thanks, Tara! Life truly must be caught, because w...Thanks, Tara! Life truly must be caught, because when it slips away in the moment it will elude us forever.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-65932551264278399572017-10-11T22:13:31.006-07:002017-10-11T22:13:31.006-07:00Jeanne, yes...memories are things that we build by...Jeanne, yes...memories are things that we build by slow degrees, and cherishing is vital. Thank you for this!<br /><br />And thank you for the prayers. As I write this, Barb has a stomach bug, and I am the caregiver. Weird.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-50607811856519936782017-10-11T22:12:06.438-07:002017-10-11T22:12:06.438-07:00Barbara, you have it exactly right. Pictures would...Barbara, you have it exactly right. Pictures would make the point that she's still part of the family. Last Christmas my wife took a picture of me and posted it to Facebook, and I was at first mortified. I looked so sick!<br /><br />But it was necessary, to make a statement that I'm still here, and that 'this is our life'. I'm glad she did it.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-9582474892840944162017-10-11T15:46:43.569-07:002017-10-11T15:46:43.569-07:00Spot on! I've learned the importance of captur...Spot on! I've learned the importance of capturing life. Tara Ulrichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619365758739247929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-28349894852560584322017-10-11T14:54:52.260-07:002017-10-11T14:54:52.260-07:00Andrew, so true. Thank you for the reminder that l...Andrew, so true. Thank you for the reminder that life is real, not curated. We need to build memories each day, through each season. And, we do need to cherish each other through every season, even the hardest ones. I hope you and Barb have been able to make some special memories. I'm guessing you may not have been taking many pictures. ;)<br /><br />You are making me think, Andrew. Thank you for that. <br /><br />I'm praying for you and Barb, my friend. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-51135096949626691342017-10-11T14:02:08.152-07:002017-10-11T14:02:08.152-07:00"Everyone's going to be either a caregive..."Everyone's going to be either a caregiver or patient at some point." Wow, that does put it in perspective. Sometimes I've wondered about taking pictures of my m-i-l in her present state - they're usually when someone comes to see her. But I think they commemorate that she is still important, still a part of the family.Barbara H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17848365749538505762noreply@blogger.com