tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post153133570456209685..comments2024-03-28T06:31:14.583-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 443 - Barbara on Caregiver Guilt {FMF}Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-77622316988708072142018-02-18T12:06:13.051-08:002018-02-18T12:06:13.051-08:00Thank you RachelThank you RachelBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-84383053364584229202018-02-18T12:05:04.757-08:002018-02-18T12:05:04.757-08:00Thank you for the scripture Thank you for the scripture Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-73474954360675632022018-02-14T16:55:57.969-08:002018-02-14T16:55:57.969-08:00It is heartbreaking to read of your struggles, but...It is heartbreaking to read of your struggles, but I thank you for sharing so honestly and openly. I am praying for you both as you persevere through these incredibly challenging and painful days. You are loved.Rachel Lundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03040828112970215049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-74021941452628202892018-02-13T17:52:39.518-08:002018-02-13T17:52:39.518-08:00Just thinking of you two. Don't even know you ...Just thinking of you two. Don't even know you but you're on my heart. I don't understand it all. It is beautiful though how you're walking this together, with Jesus. Like Kara Tippetts said in part, the nearness of God is my great great good. "But as for me, the nearness of God is my good;<br />I have made the Lord God my refuge,<br />That I may tell of all Your works." Ps. 73:28LoveJesus.Farm.Quilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05105262158755083946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-45331114703817728382018-02-12T21:10:10.199-08:002018-02-12T21:10:10.199-08:00Thank you. Advocacy is a part of the vows taken. F...Thank you. Advocacy is a part of the vows taken. For better or worse, in sickness and in health. Most people don't notice, you pledge sickness before health we did notice. Andrew in our vows made a strong point that I understood the depth of that statement. Actually I was only grazing the surface almost 16 years ago.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-4301006242101394952018-02-12T21:07:02.262-08:002018-02-12T21:07:02.262-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-78950671109068432792018-02-12T21:01:20.072-08:002018-02-12T21:01:20.072-08:00Beth thank you for your compassionate words. God...Beth thank you for your compassionate words. God helped me find a wonderful home surrounded my high desert mountains. They bring beauty and serenity everyday. The dog pack usually find away to make Andrew laugh once a day. We find comfort in out Lord everyday even on the most trying days. The saying is, it's not a bad day just a bad moment in the day. Not sure who said it. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-42139188002070138582018-02-12T08:01:30.572-08:002018-02-12T08:01:30.572-08:00I can't even imagine what it's like to be ...I can't even imagine what it's like to be in your shoes, Barbara. Not only is this physically challenging for both you and Andrew, but it's emotionally grueling every single day. My prayers are with you both! I'm hoping there are moments of joy, love and comfort in the midst of the pain. Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-25792405135639271322018-02-11T16:27:08.707-08:002018-02-11T16:27:08.707-08:00Barb, thankful to hear your heart here. I am so th...Barb, thankful to hear your heart here. I am so thankful that Five Minute Friday has brought you and Andrew into my life. Oh friend, my heart aches for you. Only because their is so much complexity in advocating for Andrew with others who might not understand what is best. Praying that you are able to feel your grief fully but also know His love carries you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-9239736259668983912018-02-11T07:43:35.305-08:002018-02-11T07:43:35.305-08:00Martha, I'm praying for you and your husband ...Martha, I'm praying for you and your husband and the journey ahead. You medical background will become invaluable for his care. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-50647580217741793692018-02-11T07:41:51.037-08:002018-02-11T07:41:51.037-08:00Martha, I agree that grief depletes a caregivers e...Martha, I agree that grief depletes a caregivers energy, and I must say patience. The moment of pause before you act or react can make the difference in how the next hours of the day before proceed. Although the moment of pause doesn't always occur and consequences then can cause it's own level of grief. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-70636008360582192018-02-11T07:36:17.634-08:002018-02-11T07:36:17.634-08:00Diana, oh thank you for showing me that my actions...Diana, oh thank you for showing me that my actions are selfish. I failed miserably yesterday with the guilt, but it ended up being the right thing to be here. <br />Thank you for the continued prayers, they are our protection. <br />Praying for you and Jerry. May your days have moments of silver lining that can cause you to pause and smile. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-83744432810690672532018-02-10T16:09:41.388-08:002018-02-10T16:09:41.388-08:00barbara, i love your post. i'm an RN, but now ...barbara, i love your post. i'm an RN, but now am a caregiver to my husband as well. it is not a full-time job, but he has had some strokes in the past few years and needs some help here and there. i understand on a limited level some of what you are talking about. i think the grief playing its way throughout the whole process tends to sap our energy at varying degrees in the process for sure. that is one reason some simple tasks seem to take so much energy:(martha68https://www.blogger.com/profile/16210599251566858182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-72804288216618427432018-02-10T10:08:25.735-08:002018-02-10T10:08:25.735-08:00I can totally relate to the guilt and grief... and...I can totally relate to the guilt and grief... and the eventual becoming numb. Over the decades with Jerry always getting worse, never better, I've learned A LOT about myself as his caregiver and how to best cope. Even if coping meant numbing a part of myself to get by. If not for the saving grace of God, there's no way I could do this all these years.<br /><br />Praying for your health, your caregiving, and your love for Andrew... praying for all the woofers you love and care for... and as always, praying for Andrew. Blessings.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17073882040193144070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-35979243242496239052018-02-09T21:21:59.159-08:002018-02-09T21:21:59.159-08:00Lesley, perseverance begets endurance and enduran...Lesley, perseverance begets endurance and endurance begets strength. Thank you for the reminder how strength in God continues. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-80457249805712899292018-02-09T21:20:37.011-08:002018-02-09T21:20:37.011-08:00Sandra, the elements of a great story, I'm t...Sandra, the elements of a great story, I'm told. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-78644098559713816952018-02-09T21:19:49.906-08:002018-02-09T21:19:49.906-08:00Tara, thank you, we both have it and it's an...Tara, thank you, we both have it and it's an added burden. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-13215576386698384062018-02-09T21:18:44.966-08:002018-02-09T21:18:44.966-08:00Marisa, the stirring of the soul is our immediate...Marisa, the stirring of the soul is our immediate need. Thank you. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-25581015826578027502018-02-09T21:17:47.244-08:002018-02-09T21:17:47.244-08:00Annie, thank you. Annie, thank you. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-57339438322820799632018-02-09T21:17:21.733-08:002018-02-09T21:17:21.733-08:00Karrilee, thank you for supporting Andrew during h...Karrilee, thank you for supporting Andrew during his journey. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-10929990919567290322018-02-09T21:16:25.726-08:002018-02-09T21:16:25.726-08:00Janet, thank for the vote of confidence. I think I...Janet, thank for the vote of confidence. I think I fake it so someday I make it. 🙂Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-34571008654294687942018-02-09T19:19:57.251-08:002018-02-09T19:19:57.251-08:00Mary, thank you. Your love and concern is a prot...Mary, thank you. Your love and concern is a protection all about us. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-62491415351387365102018-02-09T18:39:35.574-08:002018-02-09T18:39:35.574-08:00Absolutely, amen. Absolutely, amen. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-50160499023092493742018-02-09T18:38:26.734-08:002018-02-09T18:38:26.734-08:00Shelli, Andrew still keeps me even-keeled. My de...Shelli, Andrew still keeps me even-keeled. My desire is to provide all he needs, even to my dismay sometimes. He's earned every ounce I can give. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-25536217992648193682018-02-09T18:34:30.050-08:002018-02-09T18:34:30.050-08:00Linda, I'm happy to report Andrew and I have ...Linda, I'm happy to report Andrew and I have always been a Team. Almost from the first moments we communicate online. Yes we are an online couple, and communication was prominent for us getting together. Career wise most people won't think an highly educated engineer and an Accountant would hit it off. But God had laid the experience path and the rest is our journey. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083349036043825067noreply@blogger.com