tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post5329183362529110152..comments2024-03-28T06:31:14.583-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 45 - Stages of Grief: AcceptanceAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-81610024480897730812015-08-26T20:48:33.528-07:002015-08-26T20:48:33.528-07:00And thank you for being here, Barbara...your suppo...And thank you for being here, Barbara...your support means a lot to us.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-2518690030615217662015-08-26T19:07:05.693-07:002015-08-26T19:07:05.693-07:00Oh, yes, Andrew! Acceptance IS trusting God and t...Oh, yes, Andrew! Acceptance IS trusting God and taking His outstretched hand to guide you through all of the decisions that must be made - maybe not now, or soon, but eventually.<br /><br />Thank you, Andrew...your words, as always...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16954512718777249848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-20979346030784532042015-08-23T12:06:23.257-07:002015-08-23T12:06:23.257-07:00I do hope you are doing okay too, Andrew. I would ...I do hope you are doing okay too, Andrew. I would have expected a new post today, so I'm just checking in with you to see how you're doing. You are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-26815035459322446162015-08-20T22:15:12.032-07:002015-08-20T22:15:12.032-07:00Beth, I hope you're feeling better!
No, it is...Beth, I hope you're feeling better!<br /><br />No, it isn't easy to face this sort of thing - and write about it - but I've never thought of it as unfair. The world is as it must be, for free will to operate, and free will is needed for us to choose God...so the 'stuff' like illness has to be admitted, too.<br /><br />It is harsh, but I do believe that all will be put right, and the sorrows of today eternally consoled.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here, my friend.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-83667903848411735002015-08-20T09:45:03.752-07:002015-08-20T09:45:03.752-07:00I really don't know how you do it, Andrew. Thi...I really don't know how you do it, Andrew. This aspect of the grieving process and unpacking it for all of us must hit you especially hard. I suppose, I don't really want to think about this part for you either, especially when I hear your determination to live is still so strong and evident in your words and heart. But again, I thank you for your courage and honesty. Those two things--courage and honesty--make the accepting of any unfair and harsh reality better, though still bitter. My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend. Sorry that I did not come by yesterday. I've been nursing an infection that has me thinking of how incredible you are each week to push through the pain anyway. I just couldn't do it yesterday, but am trying to today. :-)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-61354735582873888962015-08-19T20:31:56.843-07:002015-08-19T20:31:56.843-07:00I think you are right, Jeanne; acceptance does com...I think you are right, Jeanne; acceptance does come in pieces. Both for the spouse, and for the dying person. (It wasn't a problem for me; my life was so keyed to the possibility of sudden violent death that I really never went through DABDA...but I may write of that view later).<br /><br />And yes, priorities do change...but sometimes, interestingly, what seems like it should be trivial takes on a very high priority...like painting the living room. I think that is because it's a connection to the normal; if one can just concentrate hard enough on the mundane, then maybe the monsters will go away...what do you think?<br /><br />And thank you so much for the prayers. For some reason, the past couple of weeks has been really, really rough. Very hard to get anything done, and concentrating to write has been...well, painful. But worth it.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-19776792025973372412015-08-19T20:27:18.602-07:002015-08-19T20:27:18.602-07:00Definitely the hardest; and when we take that leap...Definitely the hardest; and when we take that leap into actually living it, yes, it is the most liberating.<br /><br />Kind of a spiritual skydiving...Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-53655495054894236382015-08-19T20:01:27.090-07:002015-08-19T20:01:27.090-07:00Andrew, another beautiful post, packed with passio...Andrew, another beautiful post, packed with passion and truth. I've heard people who are struggling with a life-threatening disease say that their focus, their priorities become very narrow. Like you mentioned, instead of prioritizing painting the living room, time together takes a higher place on that list. It's amazing what becomes less important when life is at stake.<br /><br />For the spouse, I imagine acceptance comes in pieces, rather than all at once. And this definition? "Acceptance is the laying aside of denial and bitterness, and choosing to live the life that's there, however hard it may be, with all the goodwill and faith one has at one's command." It's the best one I've heard yet. <br /><br />I'm continuing to pray for you and Barbara, friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-91405737228772738512015-08-19T06:08:38.079-07:002015-08-19T06:08:38.079-07:00'Thy will be done.'
Perhaps the hardest p...'Thy will be done.'<br /><br />Perhaps the hardest prayer we ever pray? And yet the most freeing ...Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.com