tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post3853075385380564990..comments2024-03-28T11:09:46.338-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Lighting the Positive Marriage - The Encouraging HeartAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-2690286834352633092014-09-02T21:32:27.463-07:002014-09-02T21:32:27.463-07:00Linda, that's a great way of putting it. We gi...Linda, that's a great way of putting it. We give our spouses the leftovers...and yes, if they feel that they're second-rate, many will look for a way to feel first in someone's life.<br /><br />Yeah. Not a good thing, at all.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-57882369269553275992014-09-02T21:31:06.476-07:002014-09-02T21:31:06.476-07:00Sorry for the delay in responding, Kim.
I complet...Sorry for the delay in responding, Kim.<br /><br />I completely agree - the marriage has to come first, and friends that threaten it - in any way - have to be politely but firmly shown the door.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-10988362084680898122014-08-30T19:35:25.886-07:002014-08-30T19:35:25.886-07:00This is good, Andrew. Because we're often so ...This is good, Andrew. Because we're often so busy encouraging everyone else {social media?!}, that our spouses only get the leftovers. And be sure that if we're not giving them this gift of great value, that they will begin to look elsewhere for someone who will ...<br /><br />NOT a good thing.Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-81506643257842073072014-08-29T11:23:14.180-07:002014-08-29T11:23:14.180-07:00So true, Andrew. I love that negative friends...an...So true, Andrew. I love that negative friends...and even unbelieving friends too was on the previous list. They can spell big trouble for couples and many times they don't see this coming. It's hard to cut friends out who have been part of your life for so long, but a spouse must come first. If the friend is causing problems in the relationship and taking time away from it, they need to go. Have a great holiday weekend.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095272703996765890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-34951532999013035102014-08-27T20:36:13.615-07:002014-08-27T20:36:13.615-07:00Thanks, Kim!
I had an experience similar to yours...Thanks, Kim!<br /><br />I had an experience similar to yours...just now. I usually put a link to new blog posts on my Facebook page (separate from the 'couple' page my wife and I have...but I am friends with my wife...and me...weird).<br /><br />Anyway, my wife saw the status update, and commented on how much my encouragement has meant to her. It's something she NEVER says in person (and she does not read my blog).<br /><br />I was really surprised, and pleased.<br /><br />We all need encouragement. The ones who look like they need it least...often need it most.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-80118923250342003112014-08-27T20:32:05.002-07:002014-08-27T20:32:05.002-07:00Wow, thanks, Beth!
I completely agree, that encou...Wow, thanks, Beth!<br /><br />I completely agree, that encouragement should be practiced even if it's clumsy at first. It's like dancing - I left a trail of smashed toes before...<br /><br />Well, before I switched to break-dancing, but that's another story.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-36636084979960350002014-08-27T11:52:34.406-07:002014-08-27T11:52:34.406-07:00Andrew, this is a GREAT post!!! We wives love to g...Andrew, this is a GREAT post!!! We wives love to get specific encouragement from our husbands. My husband sat me down a while back and went on and on about something I'd done well (I had no idea, I was dumbfounded), he told me how proud he was, that it brought tears to his eyes at times. I about fell of the sofa. I will remember this until the day I die. <br /><br />I do things like this (not to this magnitude, he'd hate it - the Navy man in him) for him. He brushes it off, but I know it means a lot to him. We all need encouragement and positive feedback from our spouse.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095272703996765890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-45204333161442346152014-08-27T08:19:14.981-07:002014-08-27T08:19:14.981-07:00This is a great list, Andrew! One that is Pinteres...This is a great list, Andrew! One that is Pinterest worthy! ha! That means, I'm going to pin it to the marriage resources board that's shared with other bloggers. Oh, and one I'd add (since affirmation is not my strong-suit) encourage even when it feels awkward, because in time it will develop into something familiar and comfortable even though it isn't at first. Thanks for another thoughtful post!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.com