tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post3623769555243185696..comments2024-03-28T20:57:55.651-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 233 - Feedback For CaregiversAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-2787538485361717522016-11-17T17:34:18.084-08:002016-11-17T17:34:18.084-08:00Good point, Andrew, about the way we often invite ...Good point, Andrew, about the way we often invite our past experiences to call the shots ... when we really need to let them go and focus on the here and now.Linda Stollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-67946365146337369962016-11-17T01:20:00.422-08:002016-11-17T01:20:00.422-08:00I can imagine!!
But I think I will also like to me...I can imagine!!<br />But I think I will also like to meet Barbie😉<br />With much love and prayers from Nigeria <br />God bless Andrew Ifeoma Samuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10170617762099608583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-27868131719559933002016-11-16T14:34:04.376-08:002016-11-16T14:34:04.376-08:00Andrew,
so a potential guideline for discussion ...Andrew,<br /> so a potential guideline for discussion could follow like this?<br />"What can you do for yourself?"<br />"What do you want to do for yourself but can't?"<br />"What am I doing for you that you don't want help with?"<br />"What can I help with that I'm not currently doing?"<br />(Tell me what I'm doing right and what I'm not, but the feedback will be balanced so it doesn't all feel like criticism)<br /><br />Also, maybe discussing needs vs. wants?<br />Great great post. Especially the spouse being an equal and treating them differently than an elder.<br /><br />I want to meet Barbara!<br />Love,<br />TammyTammysincerityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16959015797818229243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-74634953708755447062016-11-16T12:29:26.533-08:002016-11-16T12:29:26.533-08:00Insightful words, Andrew. At times, though, it tak...Insightful words, Andrew. At times, though, it takes infinite patience for the caregiver. We have our own set of r sponsibilities to get accomplished, and it is hard to wait. However, a person's self worth is implied by the caregiver's actions. When we as caregivers are impatient or frustrated with the situation, then we are sending a wrong message to the loved one in our care. I keep the phrase "Extend grace" like a carrot in front of me, guiding me into right behaviors. Not always easy, but worth it.Meridian Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13415904614368419453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-20512298626023546842016-11-16T07:03:20.191-08:002016-11-16T07:03:20.191-08:00Oh yes, it's always best to address and try to...Oh yes, it's always best to address and try to talk about these things. I know how "messy" the process can be to get there--to better understanding--but it's an important connection to be made. I'm sure it makes the patient feel cared for in a way that doing something for them can never do. I hope you are doing better, Andrew. You're always in my prayers. My shingles/PHN is still healing but I'm in a much better place than I was last month! Oh boy! Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.com