tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post2169858284706373308..comments2024-03-26T13:47:55.472-07:00Comments on Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart: Your Dying Spouse 403 - The End Of Despair {FMF}Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-24218845833840561412017-11-15T07:14:06.884-08:002017-11-15T07:14:06.884-08:00Hi Andrew,
not much of a blog reader here (and ce...Hi Andrew, <br />not much of a blog reader here (and certainly not someone to respond). Just reading through your comments on my sister’s blog every once in a while… and today I ended up right here on your articles on despair for the first time. <br />What can I say? They hit home, as well as some of the replies in the comment section. Being forced to let go of the essentials that I THOUGHT carried me through life, embracing the loss of beliefs about myself, my partner, my relationship with God… I am learning the perhaps most fundamental lesson of my life. It is a state of profound confusion, pain and sadness that I am called to persevere. <br />A daily struggle with depression – mourning the loss of a relationship which played a huge role in healing the wounds of my past, accepting the reality that it was based on an irreversible transgression on behalf of my beloved. A daily effort to confront the cynical accusers in my head with the truth of God’s promise: That his forgiveness and abundance is what I will find at the deepest bottom of this battle – not my bitterness, my doubts; not the lurking self-contempt over having risked my heart and apparently ending up with less than nothing!<br />Thank you, Andrew for reminding me of what this really is – carrying the cross the way Christ did for the sake of life and love! As you put it: “Our hearts need to bleed, for only thus can our blood mingle with the Blood of the Lamb.” There’s a depth of understanding God’s vision of love (1. Cor. 13) that can only be grasped through suffering! <br />I cannot even attempt to find the right words for what you’re going through in your situation. All I can pray and hope for is that wherever your way with God may still take you in this world, be it high or low, through every season, you will find this to be true: “Call to me and I will tell you great and mysterious things that you don’t know.” (Jer. 33,3) They say as Christians we get to see Heaven after we pass on. I dare to say that in carrying the cross, we get to see a preview on what God has in store for us! Thank you for sharing your glimpses of it, Andrew! <br />Blessings over you and your wife.<br />(Please excuse my English. I’m not a native speaker.)<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830124464956267043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-42571861381031491992017-11-13T23:58:25.867-08:002017-11-13T23:58:25.867-08:00Jan, yes, it's been very, very hard. I'm i...Jan, yes, it's been very, very hard. I'm in more pain than I can possibly have imagined (I want morphine!), and Barb's back went out two days ago, so I was the caregiver...I had to literally carry her.<br /><br />She's better now, but it was rough, and took a lot out of me.<br /><br />Thank you so much for checking bac. I really appreciate it.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-65744684283055662182017-11-13T23:56:24.966-08:002017-11-13T23:56:24.966-08:00Beth, you're absolutely right. Our suffering h...Beth, you're absolutely right. Our suffering has a purpose, and mirrors His. It's not an ordeal, and not a crucible...I thin it's something through which we have to pass to understand His Heart, and His Love for us.<br /><br />Hugs and prayers are most appreciated, the past few days have been vicious.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-23738864916067558472017-11-13T23:54:23.164-08:002017-11-13T23:54:23.164-08:00Amy, yes...today, whatever it carries, has somethi...Amy, yes...today, whatever it carries, has something worth embracing.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-45599437508261507882017-11-13T23:53:34.016-08:002017-11-13T23:53:34.016-08:00Mary, thank YOU. You are ever in my prayers.Mary, thank YOU. You are ever in my prayers.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-30615947868962900672017-11-13T23:51:00.620-08:002017-11-13T23:51:00.620-08:00Marie, I love this..."Every breath belongs to...Marie, I love this..."Every breath belongs to Him." So true!<br /><br />Thank you so very much, for your companionship and friendship on this journey.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-59113963807501401992017-11-13T23:49:16.740-08:002017-11-13T23:49:16.740-08:00Gayl, thank you so much for this!
And we do appre...Gayl, thank you so much for this!<br /><br />And we do appreciate the wish of blessings; it was a hard weekend. Barb threw out her back, and I was the caregiver.<br /><br />But we made it through by God's Grace.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-92104323510042716042017-11-13T23:47:05.330-08:002017-11-13T23:47:05.330-08:00Mindy, you're so right; God's got it. Than...Mindy, you're so right; God's got it. Thank you so much for stopping by!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-8485093146403561952017-11-13T23:46:22.024-08:002017-11-13T23:46:22.024-08:00Jennifer, I love the way you put this, "seein...Jennifer, I love the way you put this, "seeing with new eyes the treasure that exists in today." Thank you!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-84409895385236654202017-11-13T23:40:01.386-08:002017-11-13T23:40:01.386-08:00Joanne, I love those two lines! Thank you for shar...Joanne, I love those two lines! Thank you for sharing them.<br /><br />Blessings back, and please excuse my late reply.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-7714199503135416902017-11-13T23:38:05.289-08:002017-11-13T23:38:05.289-08:00Katha, it is indeed a hard truth, but I suspect th...Katha, it is indeed a hard truth, but I suspect the harshness of the lesson may be necessary...at least it has been, for me.<br /><br />It's been a terribly hard weekend (hence my late reply), but the beauty is there, too.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-69472357265559537132017-11-13T23:36:27.647-08:002017-11-13T23:36:27.647-08:00Leigh, you're right...the memories and picture...Leigh, you're right...the memories and pictures can indeed speak, and I sometimes overlook this.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here, and please pardon my late reply.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-89857546558996174462017-11-13T23:35:16.366-08:002017-11-13T23:35:16.366-08:00Thank you so very much, Anita, and please excuse m...Thank you so very much, Anita, and please excuse my tardiness in replying. Bad days this weekend.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-31598941748697191022017-11-13T23:32:48.019-08:002017-11-13T23:32:48.019-08:00Martha, thank you so much, and you're so right...Martha, thank you so much, and you're so right...we aren't really in charge of anything.<br /><br />Blessings back, and please pardon my delayed response.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-48283925276738087502017-11-13T23:19:49.986-08:002017-11-13T23:19:49.986-08:00Thank YOU, Jeannie, for your company on this journ...Thank YOU, Jeannie, for your company on this journey, and for the inspiration of your writing. And please pardon the delay in my response. I'm hurting.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-64857382337794400602017-11-13T23:18:17.946-08:002017-11-13T23:18:17.946-08:00Jan, thank you...what wisdom I might have, and the...Jan, thank you...what wisdom I might have, and the peace I DO have, were worth learning the hard way...I suspect there was no other road for me, and that's OK.<br /><br />Sorry for the delay in replying. These have been tough days.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-40103821771925234422017-11-13T23:16:56.085-08:002017-11-13T23:16:56.085-08:00Amy, yes! We DO have that promised future, and the...Amy, yes! We DO have that promised future, and the hope that is evergreen unto eternity!<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here, and please pardon the late reply. Hard days here.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-35000219391664020592017-11-13T23:15:02.891-08:002017-11-13T23:15:02.891-08:00Lesley, exactly right - the ultimate freedom lies ...Lesley, exactly right - the ultimate freedom lies in the perfect surrender. Thank you for this!<br /><br />And please pardon the tardiness of my reply.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-14763044480949204602017-11-13T23:12:20.663-08:002017-11-13T23:12:20.663-08:00Debbie, your words honour and humble me, and I am ...Debbie, your words honour and humble me, and I am deeply grateful for your presence and friendship.<br /><br />And please pardon my late reply; hard days now.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-48318279597120695512017-11-13T23:03:52.840-08:002017-11-13T23:03:52.840-08:00Thank YOU, Annie! And please pardon my late reply;...Thank YOU, Annie! And please pardon my late reply; these have been very bad days.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-61378826308693209962017-11-13T22:50:03.966-08:002017-11-13T22:50:03.966-08:00Christy, you said this so well..."we deserve ...Christy, you said this so well..."we deserve nothing but what Jesus too instead of us...".<br /><br />The completed Christ-work is enough, and all else is the gravy of grace, given by a loving God.<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here, and please pardon my lateness in responding.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-29471708969660750772017-11-13T22:48:03.378-08:002017-11-13T22:48:03.378-08:00Susan, thank you for this...I'm glad to still ...Susan, thank you for this...I'm glad to still be here, too. It's getting harder, but I would not miss this for the world.<br /><br />XOXOXOWaggyWaggyWOOF!Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-8943422580105402792017-11-13T22:47:05.809-08:002017-11-13T22:47:05.809-08:00Susan, you're so right...there is so much we d...Susan, you're so right...there is so much we don't need, and the 'wanting' only serves to separate us from God. Let go, let God!<br /><br />Thank you so much for your prayers, and please pardon my tardy reply.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-13183454881436417672017-11-13T22:45:57.651-08:002017-11-13T22:45:57.651-08:00Mari-Anna, thank you o much for your prayers. They...Mari-Anna, thank you o much for your prayers. They are REALLY needed. It's a dark place for me now, but the light of Christ, reflected through my dear friends here, makes my path and footing secure.<br /><br />Please pardon my late reply; there have been bad days.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4095822388315899381.post-64809945384898152552017-11-13T22:43:30.836-08:002017-11-13T22:43:30.836-08:00Nanette, thank you so much! And yes, Christ dwelli...Nanette, thank you so much! And yes, Christ dwelling in us is the hope and surety of glory.<br /><br />Thanks for being here, and please pardon my delay in responding.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.com